Here is my reply:
Dearest Colorado Superbabes,

I've been reading the messages about calling in our "dream partner" and felt so grateful to see everyone's replies. It took me back to 2018 when I was in graduate school, studying to be a Marriage and Family Therapist. I was learning all these skills about being in a relationship but had nobody to practice with.

I found myself in and out of relationships with 'unavailable men'—men who would tell me they weren’t looking for a relationship, and I would still go for them anyway. I stayed in relationships too long, made excuses for men who didn't follow through, and pined over guys who wouldn't give me the attention I desired. You get the picture!

I remember thinking: "I am special. I am unique. These men will get to know me, and they will change their minds and love me!"

Then, a book found me that changed my life: Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl by Natalie Lue. This book made me realize I was the one who was unavailable because I was choosing unavailable men. Even though I consciously believed I was available, I kept attracting unavailable men. I realized, "Oh my God, by going for these men, I am a fallback girl."

I decided that I was available and ready for my dream partner. From that point on, I would only go out with available men. I got creative about manifesting my dream partner. I would literally make dinner for two by myself, imagining what it would be like when my lover was there.

I shaved my legs. I did my hair. I was always looking cute! I started feeling in my body what it was like to be with my lover before he even arrived, making love with myself. I thought to myself, "Okay, if this book is telling me that I'm unavailable, how can I make myself so completely available right now?" I started imagining what it was like to be in a healthy, secure partnership with the man of my dreams and aligning myself towards this love while at home by myself.

As I cooked dinner, I pretended I was talking to him, lost in conversation. During this process, I fell so in love with myself. I thought, "Oh my God, this guy is gonna be so stoked that he found me!" And I knew that this man was out there wanting me too. I just started imagining my heart as a magnet, pulling this amazing man towards me. I knew he was out there looking for me too. There was no doubt in my mind.

I wrote letters to him, imagined what he was doing and where he was, and pictured where he was spending his time. I had so much fun with it! I decided I was going to let my heart be open, lead with curiosity, and say yes to intuition through listening to the little messages that would come through, telling me to go one way or the other. I call this inspired intuitive action.

A few months later, some friends invited me to join their 'Accountability Counsel.' We all had big dreams to change the world, but we needed to take concrete action steps. Initially, I hesitated—writing my master's thesis left me with little spare time. But a little voice inside urged me to join, to connect with these amazing people.

So I said yes, and that's where I met Jon Medina. I didn’t know him before; he seemed like a sweet yoga teacher, artist and musician, and I even thought he was gay. At the end of the first meeting, we drew names from a hat for accountability partners, and I was partnered with Jon.

We started meeting together, holding each other accountable for our budgets. Our relationship began here, evolving beautifully from this practical foundation. The first night he came over, we stayed up until 3 in the morning laughing, doing strange yoga poses on the ground, and having deep conversations. I quickly learned that Jon wasn’t gay.

But Jon wasn’t my "type" at all. He was skinny and wasn't my definition of 'hot'. My list of desired traits in a partner included things like an Ivy League education, a successful career, a solid family upbringing, and a buff mountain man with blond hair. Jon didn’t fit most of these criteria—he came from a broken family, had a history of drug addiction, hadn’t gone to college and he was working in a restaurant while building a career as an artist. Yet, he was loving, caring, available, and he was absolutely wild about me.

Growing up, my mother had a list of traits she wanted in her dream partner, and she got everything on that list when she married my dad. They have an incredible relationship, and I thought my life would turn out like that too. However, my journey took a different direction.

I was so attached to my list that I almost missed the love of my life. I was caught up in the fairy tale of who I thought I should be with, almost missing someone who loved me more deeply than I could imagine.

About a month into dating, I told Jon I needed space to figure things out. He gently suggested I sit with LSD with the intention of understanding our relationship better. So I did, and the experience was transformative. The message I received repeatedly was to be open. From that point on, I never questioned my relationship with Jon ever again.

Jon has shown up for me with integrity and kindness, proving to be everything I needed and more. He has proven to blow my dreams out of the water, in the best possible way. Thank goodness for that LSD experience, which helped me reprogram my mind to be open to true love, rather than clinging to a made-up list.

Six months later, we eloped and got married at Burning Man, and soon, we will be married six years. This has been the most magical relationship of my life. We believe that the honeymoon phase never ends, and it is true for us.

​I hope my story can serve as an inspiration for those struggling with similar doubts and fears. Remember, sometimes letting go of our rigid expectations opens us up to the love we've been seeking all along.