In module 6 of Magic of Meditation, we got personal.

Have you ever been through a friend break up? Sometimes is hurts more than the romantic endings...

​I recently experienced this and it brought up so much for me. I realized how I can take things personally and that I make assumptions too... I created a story about myself where I feel that I am and need "too much." (THIS IS NOT FOLLOWING THE 4 AGREEMENTS!)

The more meditation that I do, the more grounded I become, I realize I actually don’t have to make myself different than I am. Instead, I work with my BIG energy with more awareness, less judgment, + more compassion.

I can adjust the knobs and levels - what I let out, when, and with whom. I am not trying anymore to turn myself into someone who someone else expects or wants me to be. And sometimes that means the ending of relationships and to make space for those who really DO what to be my friend.

I am leaning more and more into my Dharma - my life path. As I continue diving into my daily practices, rituals and moments to be still with myself, I am cultivating with clarity + intention, the life path that the Universe has set out for me.

There are some people that are not going to ‘like’ or ‘respect’ my path or my dharma (purpose) - and that’s OKAY. The more that I find myself in alignment, the more my Sangha - or community - feels nurturing, regenerative, whole. Everything I could ever ask for.

There is a concept called the Three Jewels of Buddhism which are:

We are six modules into our Sangha where our container has chosen me and themselves as the teachers. I believe we become our best teachers when we create time to sit still with ourselves. Then the dharma, the purpose of Magic of Meditation course is to support you in finding your fullest potential, your fullest expression, your flowering.

We don’t have to try hard to find our personal dharmas, the path is right here in the practice of meditation, in the breath. The in and out. The flow and cycle of breath, of life. The path is in the rain, nature, the words that we use, and the people we love. Sometimes the path has what feels like an obstruction where you have to do a little parkour and it is not linear. We find ways to navigate and strengthen our connection to ourselves in the ever-changing and ever-unfolding process.

The “breaking up” with my friend is an example of that perceived obstruction or a clearing. From this ending of our relationship, I am realizing the people I choose to work with in my private practice, business, and social life, and every person on this path with me are very intentional AND it needs to be both ways.

So, what happens when we do lean into the stories or ‘get in our own way’? For example, my story has been that I am “too much.”

Grab your journal, light a candle, and be gentle with yourself as you ground in with our guided meditation. Next, feel free to write down some examples of how you ‘get in your own way’.

If you're wondering what I mean by getting in your own way, another way to say it could be “getting in my own head - I am thinking, thinking, thinking.”

Make a few bullets. Take a moment to reflect on these.

Next, write down a few ways in which you help yourself out of each of these situations in your journal.

Meditation is one of my main tools for getting out of my own way. I meditate to get out of my analytical mind and overthink so I can work things out with myself. The quiet time with yourself is a great time to come with questions. For example, “How do I respond to this person? What is the kindest way to show up in this situation?” or “Wow I am feeling really hurt, maybe I sit down to feel and create space in the mind, body, and soul.”

After sitting, we come from a holistic perspective vs. a reactionary way of thinking. We start to trust our path vs. question it. I will tell you there is not a magic recipe for this, but I do know meditation is helpful!

Both ancient teachings and scientific research can and do prove the ability for mindfulness meditation to physically and chemically alter the brain, rewire new neural pathways, adjust gene expression (epigenetics) and build more gray matter. In essence, as we repattern our minds and bodies to stay present with our breath, we train our attention on the present moment, we no longer have space for overthinking, ruminating, avoiding. We’re gently confronting the present moment with each and every breath. We cultivate new ways of thinking, acting in alignment with our highest values and deepest desires. We simply have no more room for the ways that have held us back in the past.

This is life - a meandering, winding path. And part of what we are learning to do is be our own unique selves and let other people be their unique selves too. Shining our light inspires others to shine theirs. And together we create a beautiful world.
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